Their absence has left a hole in your life that has only been filled with pain. Not only are you yearning for their presence, but you’re also trying to grasp who you were when they were here. How could you not, when someone who has helped shape you is now gone?
It doesn’t feel real. Instead, it’s more like you’re a bystander watching someone else’s life. It can’t be real, this can’t be happening – not to you, not to them. You saw them, talked to them, and this feels like a nightmare that you can’t wake up from. They can’t be gone, and yet, the world keeps moving around you, as if nothing has changed, but everything has.
“What if I had done something different?” “Why wasn’t I there?”
“Why didn’t I answer the phone?” “I should have visited more.” “I shouldn’t have said that to them.”
“What was the last thing I said to them?” “Did I tell them I loved them?” “Did they know that I loved them?”
“Why didn’t I stay longer?” “If I did this, they would still be here.” “It’s my fault.” “I could have or should have done something.”
It hurts; you couldn’t imagine your life without them, and now you have no choice but to figure out what this new life has in store for you. You didn’t choose this; it was chosen for you, and it is not fair that they are gone, that you are left to figure out what lies ahead without them.
Why you, why is this happening to you?
Unfortunately, grief is a companion no one wants or asks for. But it’s a companion that will find us all in due time. Now that it has found you, you’re wondering what comes next.
Maranda Henderson is a Certified Grief Educator who has walked the grief path after losing her dad. She knows how isolating and overwhelming it can feel.
The path forward may feel uncertain, shrouded in shadows and unfamiliar terrain. Maranda can help you navigate the difficult stretches, process the weight of your loss, and discover the parts of yourself that remain.
Along the way, we will honor the person you lost while also exploring who you are now without them. Together, we will uncover your strengths, confront the pain and grief that linger, and seek the meaning and purpose that can guide your steps forward. We will move carefully through sorrow, guilt, and confusion, allowing space for both remembrance and renewal.
The only difference between you and Maranda is not in the path itself, but in the map she carries. It provides a guide to help you find your footing, avoid unnecessary obstacles, and move forward at your own pace.
Maranda can walk beside you, helping you chart your own way through this wilderness.
Grief doesn’t shrink over time. We grow around it. Nothing can take grief away; the only way to stop grieving is to stop loving them, but we can learn ways to cope with grief.
Therapy can help you learn to carry their memory without it weighing you down. We will find ways to honor your loss while still making space for life, for joy, and for connection.
Reach out and schedule a consultation call, and let’s take the first step forward together.